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Equipping the compassionate and setting the captives free | Isaiah 61: 1-4
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Approval Addiction

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Christmas can be a very stressful time of year. Especially if you are trying to please everyone and perfectionism is creeping in.

We often try to make everything perfect to gain a positive response from those around us. If they love the presents we have chosen, the food we have prepared or the activities we have organised then for a few moments we feel confident, worthwhile and on top of the world.

Unfortunately, when we sense disapproval from those we are striving to please we often feel downhearted, deflated, angry, depressed or perhaps even a complete failure.

The need for approval gives us a sense of self -worth, significance and security and it can be very addictive.

Yet, like all addictions, it ensnares us, and always searching for the approval of others enslaves us to the expectations of other people, giving them an unhealthy influence over us. People’s opinions are often flawed and if we allow them to have such a great influence over us, we may needlessly feel inadequate and inferior from the criticism of others.

Don’t let the way other people treat you determine your worth and value. Even if you feel rejected, you can survive. The truth is that if you have God you have all you need. He knows you perfectly and loves you, flaws and all. You cannot do anything about what people think, you can only be yourself.

It is offensive to God when we let other people control us. He sent Jesus to buy our freedom with His life. If you are letting someone control your life, intimidate, manipulate you or cause you to do something you know in your heart is not right, then you need to break those controlling powers.

Do not let it continue and do not enable a person to control you, but learn how they control you and resist their control tactics. As you confront the controller their attitude toward you will move from anger to respect.
Accept who you really are, loved by God, and worthy through Jesus and begin to overcome your approval addiction.

Should you need help in overcoming approval addiction, please contact The Sanctuary or visit our website.

“Equipping the compassionate and setting the captives free.” - Isaiah 61: 1-4